At e Harmony, we know that finding compatible interracial singles, in London and the rest of the UK, can be challenging.That’s why we take time to really get to know you and find out what you’re looking for in a partner.While that might have assuaged users' initial curiosity, people who messaged her kept harping on the subject. Vanessa*, 27, a woman of black and Asian heritage, also lists her racial background in her profile.Like Alyssa, she frequently receives messages pointing out how "exotic-looking" she is. But the world of online dating can be difficult in a very specific way for those who identify as multiracial. Whether it's some drunk guy saying, "You're so hot, I don't care that you're Hispanic" (I'm not Hispanic), or someone finding out my dad is from India and then only wanting to talk about curry and Bollywood, my experiences as a multiracial woman have been marked by people just not knowing how to bring up race without being incredibly awkward. As a biracial person and the creator of the hashtag, I've experienced this firsthand.But she also frequently interacts with white men who try to flatter her by saying they picked her profile specifically because they don't like to date white women."They seem to think it's a compliment or a reason why they picked my profile to interact with," Vanessa told .
Yet even though they found it tiring to field endless questions about what "mix" they were, some multiracial people told that they preferred online dating to dating IRL, as it gave them the ability to be upfront about their identity on their profile.For every person trying to decipher just what makes you look so "exotic," there's someone who acts like dating someone of mixed heritage will make them more interesting. It just makes them, at best, racially insensitive, and at worst an asshole., nearly 9% of couples are of different races, nearly twice as many as there were in 2002.People are weird about race in the dating world, though, and despite wanting to come off as progressive and open-minded, many dating app users still have racial biases.Alyssa said that putting your racial background on your profile preempts the need to have an awkward conversation about it later on."I got less weird stuff about my racial background online than I did [dating] in person," Alyssa said."In person there's not a good way to say ' I'm biracial, don't be weird' before someone makes it a thing."That said, the people who are going to make it a "thing" will likely do so, regardless of whether they're meeting you IRL or on an online dating website.