Dana Brownlee, president of professional training development company Professionalism Matters, advises against initiating a romance with your manager, or, likewise, with anyone who reports to you directly or indirectly.“If you’re a manager, you should be held to a higher standard,” she says.“I was working crazy hours as a marketing executive, usually over 70 hours a week,” says Scott Valdez, 25-year-old CEO of Virtual Dating Assistants, which functions a bit like an electronic yenta.“I was also online dating but didn’t have time for it.
One day it dawned on me that there was probably a demand for this service for overworked executives who want to meet people but don’t have time.” Valdez followed his gut and launched the “dating management agency” in June 2009.
Consider the Worst-Case Scenario With 7% of respondents to the Career Builder survey saying they had to leave a job after a breakup, you’ll be glad you did some critical thinking before jumping into any new relationship with a colleague.
First of all, ask yourself how well you know your potential partner.
Know Your Company’s Policy Before the First Date Some companies have very strict rules about relationships, and you should understand those boundaries—and the possible consequences of crossing them.
“Of course we know those policies aren’t always adhered to,” says Jacqueline Whitmore, founder of etiquetteexpert.com, “but it certainly should be considered, especially if there’s a policy that says, ‘We won’t hire married couples.'” In other words, assuming you think this relationship could get serious enough to get to the altar, you could end up having to choose between your lover and your livelihood. Of people surveyed by Workplace Options, 57% said they’d opt to protect their career, but 43% said they would lean towards leaving their jobs.
already looked into the company policy, so you understand which superiors need to know. “In the early, casual stages, it’s probably better to keep it quiet,” says Brownlee.