It can further fuel the anger of the former spouse, which can make the divorce process more difficult emotionally.
They may refuse to cooperate, alienate the children, or take other steps to further delay the proceedings. The process can be long, even years in some cases, and you may not feel the need to put your love life on hold while waiting on the papers to be signed.
But conversely, believing you should have sex after a specific number of dates can feel artificial, not to mention scary in some cases.
If that describes you, back in the saddle again after a hiatus, divorce or widowhood, know that yes, the rules have changed—and for the better.A better rule: If you've met a guy at a party and are having a great chat, there's no reason you can't say something like, "I'd love to keep this conversation going. " To summon the courage, remember two things: One, a guy who might be scared off by your "forwardness" isn't worth your time anyway.And two, "men are as afraid of rejection as you are," says Dr. "A guy who's interested will be relieved that the burden's not on him this time." Photo: i Stockphoto3.A better rule: Sure, early on you don't want to blurt out, "If you don't want kids, tell me now." But at the same time, you shouldn't deny your own basic needs, wants or ambitions, says Dr. Don't be afraid of revealing that you're in the market for a long-term serious relationship and potential father for your children, or that you plan to go back to law school or move to Africa."Anyone who is scared away by your revelations is someone you want to send packing," says Dr. Rules about when or whether to hit the sack with a new partner can be confusing.