She's amazed at how brazen she's become, hopping among several "partners" in one night and indulging in virtual sex acts she had never previously imagined. Young goes on, "the best part is the morning after. Now when Leah enters the People Connection seeking quick sexual encounters, she finds herself desired by dozens of men. It's almost midnight and the lobby of People Connection [an Internet chatroom] is bursting with people, excitement, and anticipation. When I found out about this and confronted her, she refused to admit she had a problem. In fact, retired sexual crimes investigator Willie Draughon asserts that "females are more inclined to pursue the communication aspect of the subculture after their initial intro through visual porn. Just as it does for men, Internet porn/cybersex becomes a "drug of choice" where women find pleasure, relief and escape (self-medication) from the pain, stress and realities of everyday life. I will blow away the argument that says pornography is a harmless outlet-what someone does in the privacy of their own home or office is their business and doesn't hurt anyone else.
And after work she could go home and play the vixen again, engaging in dominance and submission under handles like 'Super Vixen' or 'Madam X.'" Cathy's Story-The Future of Women and Internet Pornography While writing my book . I found myself looking for time when no one was around so I could get on the Internet. Chatrooms had a much more powerful attraction to me than the pornography itself. I hide a lot of dirty laundry, make quickest meals possible . My initial curiosity with Internet porn led me to the chatrooms, which in turn led me to actual face-to-face sexual encounters. I was curious about how far a person would go to expose their body for all the world to see so I got on a pornography site. One day I got bold enough to find a person online and we arranged to meet for the sole purpose of having sex. I had never met him before in my life and that is the way I wanted it. All I wanted to do was live for myself and fulfill my selfish physical desires. I now wanted to hang around the people who wanted a life such as mine. I didn't drink or smoke but I went there to socialize with the kind of people that I could take home and have a one-night stand with. It's a slow, subtle process that takes you on a trip to hell. The following is a brief overview Cathy provided me prior to our telephone interview: My first contact with the Internet is an experience that I will never forget. Before long I realized that I didn't want to just imagine sex with a partner, I wanted to physically have sex with someone. I know of many women who have fallen into the same trap that I did for one reason or another. The Internet provides this type of environment for women more than any other vehicle in history." In next month's article I will discuss the myriad of pornography's victims-those who lie in the wake of porn wreckage.